Reach Your Super Level of Success by preventing Self Sabotage.
The biggest obstacle to our success is ourselves. The rest of the world is too busy to actively get in our way. If you are anything like I was in the times of self-doubt, you feel like everyone’s eyes are on you. When actuality they’re not. They great news is they’re not actively getting in our way. If our lack of success is our fault, we can take steps to address the situation and make the change we so desperately want to make.
There are a variety of ways you sabotage yourself. For instance, you procrastinate, think negatively, and have other harmful habits. As Walt Kelly once said, “We have met the enemy, and he is us.”
Be honest with yourself and look at the times in your life when success slipped through your fingers. Can you see how you are at least partly to blame?
You can use these strategies to put an end to self-sabotage & claim your right to success:
- Be clear regarding what you want. One way to sabotage yourself is to keep changing your mind. You might spend months working toward one goal, only to change your mind. Indecisiveness is a success killer. I know this all too well. It has taken me working on myself to know this is a problem everyone can face. Be clear about what you want and be consistent.
- Notice how you waste time. What do you do when you procrastinate? Do you like to watch TV? YouTube videos? Go shopping? Have a snack? You can’t stop yourself from wasting time unless you can recognize that you’re wasting time. Make a list of your time-wasting behaviors and pay attention when they happen.
- Understand the repercussions of your behavior. Time-wasting behaviors feel good in the short-term. That’s probably all you’re considering. Turn your attention to the bigger picture. What will happen down the road if you continue to waste time? Consider the consequences.
- Stop negative self-talk. Isn’t life challenging enough already? You don’t have to make things even more difficult by getting in your own way. Monitor yourself. If you catch yourself speaking poorly to yourself, stop and say something positive instead.
- Hang out with positive, supportive people. The people around you can indirectly or directly sabotage your efforts. You allowing this to happen is a form of self-sabotage because you chose your friends. Make sure you make the necessary adjustments to spend time with those who support your success.
- Learn to deal with discomfort. Self-sabotage is a strategy for dealing with discomfort. If you weren’t uncomfortable at all, you’d never sabotage yourself in the first place. Understand that discomfort is necessary if you want to change your life in a meaningful way. All roads to success lead you through discomfort.
- Visualize success. The idea of success might be more stressful than you think, especially if you’ve gotten used to failing.
- Take a few minutes each day and visualize yourself being successful. Notice how it feels. Keep up this routine until success feels completely natural.
- Think about why you might find failure appealing. What are the advantages to you of failing?
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. We compare ourselves to the most talented people we know. Everyone is better than you at something. But we compare our weaknesses to the strengths of others.
- You can always improve from where you were the last week. That’s the key to success.
It’s not easy to notice how you get in your own way. Examine your habits and your past failures. Do you expect to succeed or do you start searching for excuses to fail before you’ve even gotten started?
I know something new can be just as scary. Stop getting in your own way. You can experience and discover the joys of success.