Trying to be perfect is a flaw that many people have. But, in trying to make things “perfect” we often do the opposite. Perfectionism creates fear inside you to stop living your dream and keeps you from bringing it into fruition. It can cause paralysis and when you’re worried about making everything perfect, nothing ever gets done.
On this Good Friday, with Easter just days away, it causes most of us to reflect on where we are and what we want to do with our life. Also, how can me move forward with our goals and other areas in our lives.
Something we can do is get past our perfectionism ideology and move forward with our goals, careers, and lives.
Move forward with these 8 action steps:
- Pay attention to your inner thoughts. Perfectionism can sneak up on you and take over your thoughts. Listen to your self-talk.
- Try to stop negative thoughts such as, “You’re not good enough,” or, “Not like that! It must be perfect!”
- Substitute these negative thoughts with positive thoughts, like, “This looks great! You did a good job. It’s a fine effort.”
- Get things done. When you’re too focused on making everything perfect, it slows you down. Instead, remember to stick to a schedule and meet deadlines.
- Make your standards realistic.
- Focus on completing tasks on time instead of getting lost in the tiny details of each assignment.
- Take action. Keep moving forward. Remember, you can improve, if you need to, as you go along.
- Forgive yourself and others. Forgiveness can free you from perfectionism. Remind yourself that no one is perfect and everyone has faults. Learn to forgive yourself and others for mistakes.
- Try to find beauty in the imperfect.
- Keep in mind that second chances are usually available. Even if you can’t do something perfectly the first time, you may have the opportunity to fix it later.
- If the boss says you didn’t get that proposal done right, take a deep breathe and move forward.
- Celebrate tiny wins. Instead of focusing on what still needs to be done, focus on your wins.
- Each time you finish something it’s a small victory. It’s important to celebrate your accomplishments – even small ones.
- Take a moment to celebrate and say thank you. Do something special for yourself.
- Avoid being overwhelmed by a mistake. Perfectionists can get upset when things go wrong and tend to overly blame themselves. You can take responsibility for your role in the mistake without being overwhelmed by it.
- Learn to reframe the experience. Focus on the positive aspects, such as the lessons the mistake has taught you.
- Keep in mind that failure is a normal part of the journey to success.
- Avoid spending days going over the mistake in your mind. Learn to move past it.
- Find balance in your life. Perfectionism can creep into many parts of your life. It can take over your family, relationships, and career. It’s important to strive for balance.
- Try to avoid focusing on just one aspect of your life. Instead, keep things balanced by spending time with friends, family, and coworkers.
- Avoid neglecting important things such as your hobbies, personal health, or children.
- Change your mindset. Changing how you think about things can be a powerful way to combat perfectionism. The way you view the world can influence every part of your being. Learn to find the good in everything and be happy with it.
- Do you have an all or nothing attitude that paints everything in black or white? Or can you see the gray areas?
- The key to avoiding perfectionism is to realize that the world isn’t divided into perfect parts that can always be analyzed. Instead, it’s a complicated mix that has many moving parts. The same applies to your mind.
- Focus on making progress. Even a failure is progress because it moves you closer to finding success.
You can learn to move past perfectionism. Try these tips to see if they can assist you in the process of moving forward. Once you are able to free your mind from perfectionism, you’ll feel happier. Trust me, I too am a recovering perfectionist. I have had to learn to move out of my way & see what was stopping me from tapping into my greatness. I know it can be a daunting thing to think about as a perfectionist, but the possibilities are worth it!